So, you want to have a joint hen and stag party?
Good for you! 'Hag' parties are becoming quite commonplace nowadays, and if you and your betrothed are friends with all the same people, divvying them up by gender and heading off for two separate adventures may seem like a pretty daft thing to do.
Joint parties are particularly popular within unevenly-gendered friendship groups. For example, if the bride and groom have twelve male friends and only four female friends, it's not fair to take away two thirds of the bride's entourage and send them away for a legendary lads' weekend with the groom, dooming her to something far more low-key.
So a hag party it is, then! Forget about splitting everyone up - book a venue, plan some activities, and invite EVERYONE to join in the fun!
Joint Hen & Stag Do Ideas
Now that you've settled on a joint do, it's time to decide how you're going to spend it. It should go without saying that some 'traditional' forms of hen/stag entertainment are inappropriate for a unisex event; for example, the groom may not appreciate being waited upon by a buff butler, just as the average bride probably wouldn't want any topless waitresses on the guest list.
Of course, it's not unheard of for couples to attend strip clubs together - you may even wish to end your joint party by receiving a 'couple's dance' from a sexy stripper
. By and large, though, it's better to stick to slightly less risqué activities - here are some ideas:
Pretty much everybody - male, female, whatever - loves chocolate. A chocolate-making class is a great activity for any combination of people; not only will you get to fill your faces with tasty treats, you'll actually learn how to make those treats yourself. Trust us, chocolate tastes even better when you're eating your own work!
Like chocolate, live comedy is a pastime that knows no gender. If you and your pals love to laugh, why not hire a professional stand-up and get them to entertain the lot of you while you drink yourselves stupid?
Speaking of which...
If you're going to spend your bachelor(ette) party guzzling down vino, you may as well learn to do it properly. It may seem like the sort of thing that only middle-aged, middle-class people do, but don't worry - you don't need a pair of red trousers to enjoy the finer aspects of red wine!